Mothers carry a heavy burden. With the responsibility of raising children, looking after a bigger child (husband), juggling work, and even single parenting. Often it can feel like there is not a minute left in the day to take for yourself.
The build of so much internalised stress and self-imposed pressure can lead to depression and emotional distancing, and make it next to impossible to meet your family and work commitments with positivity and success. Therefore your number one responsibility must be to take care of yourself.
Fortunately that is much easier than you think, and just takes a little bit of time management, imagination and dedication – attributes mothers have in abundance!
Hobbies and interests should always have a part in your life and once you get on top of your schedule you will be able to enjoy yourself – cutting stress and improving health at the same time.
From shopping to yoga, it is a great chance to boost self-esteem and see yourself as a woman again, as well as a mother. Start by giving yourself a night off a week or a weekend day by calling in favours and use it to go for girly drinks, a lunch or a spa day. Aside from this, regular exercise mixed in with classes like spinning, zumba and yoga give you a create chance to build motivation and unwind once or twice a week.
Book clubs are another great way to interact with likeminded people and widen your social circle, whilst reading has the added bonus of being able to instantly transport you into another world wherever you are, allowing you to snatch fifteen minute slots of ‘you’ time throughout the day. There are also night classes that will satisfy even the most experimental imagination, and will give you something to work towards that will leave you self-satisfied and ready to embrace every other aspect of your life.
For families going through a divorce it is easy to become entrenched in negative emotions, focusing on the breaking up, rather than the starting afresh aspects of the transition. In this case it is especially important to focus on personal hobbies, maintaining a support network and positive socialising.
If you are in the prcess of divorcing, it is very important for you to take care of yourself throughout the entire process, which means paying attention to your emotional as well as physical health. Many mental health professionals have cited the pain of divorce as similar to the feelings of grief. To make sure that you heal completely, it’s important that you don’t neglect yourself while seeing
to everyone else’s needs.
Here are some ways to care for your emotional health as you go through this major transition.
Create Some Support
If you find yourself overwhelmed, talk to your friends or family members. Many of us are concerned about asking for help, but it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Your support network is there for you, just as you would undoubtedly be there for them.
At the same time, since you are no longer in a relationship, you can use the time you would have spemt catering to his needs, to cater to your own. You can reconnect with old friends or cultivate new friendships. Widen your social circle and expand your support network to gain new hobbies and new experiences. You can move on by enriching your life and surrounding yourself with supportive, caring people.
Juggling can become a habit
When we think about divorce, an initial reaction can be worry and concern. Stress is a normal part of life and the support can help with this problem Additionally though, whether you are a full time mum, working mum or single mum you can still lead a healthy lifestyle and get back into the swing of things.
Chances are that there will be more time taken up in your schedule due to family matters but the more you juggle these things, the better it should become.
Before, you were probably “Mrs. So-and-So” or “So-and-So’s wife”. Now you can be whoever you want to be. While leaving a relationship can feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself, think of it instead of regaining a part of yourself. Many women find that after a divorce, they can discover a whole new part of themselves, including new interests, hobbies, and even careers and romances. So as you plan that quick divorce, remember that the world is open to you and the possibilities are endless.
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