How many times do you ask yourself Why?, Why not?, Why not me? Or Why not now? Most people ask these questions to themselves a lot. You don’t understand, or it doesn’t seem fair that you didn’t get the thing or the outcome that you were hoping for.
Asking yourself questions and really thinking about the answers is actually a great thing, and can help you to know yourself better. However, you need to ask positive questions, not negative ones. Asking Why not me? is not a positive question, you are complaining because you didn’t get something that you thought you were worthy of.
Don’t get me wrong, asking why questions of yourself is good. Any question that begins with Why helps you to understand a concept or a situation. Small children are always asking this type of question. They want to learn how things work, it is all part of the learning process.
Finding out why, is how you understand what is going on in the world that surrounds you. It is possible, that as you mature, you lose your childhood desire of wanting to know more and being open to new experiences and ideas. Instead you rely on your own judgement, your preconceptions and how you see the world, and this can lead to problems.
So if you haven’t asked yourself Why in a long time, now is the time to start doing so. Become curious again and start to seek a better understanding of what is going on around you. You will become a better person for it.
In addition to asking Why questions about your surroundings, ask this type of question to yourself. Take the time to discover what your Why is about your life. What drives and motivates you today? What are you passionate about?
The questions Why not me? And Why not now? can be understood in two different ways, both of which, depend upon your mindset. As I mentioned earlier most people feel upset and let down when they ask Why not me? Instead you need to ask yourself the exact same question with a positive outlook, you now become hopeful when you say the words Why not me?
If you missed a promotion or lucked out on getting something that you wanted, just say to yourself Why not me this time? What can I change? Figure out how you can improve the situation and then go after the outcome you want. Isn’t that a much better frame of mind to be in?
Mums the Boss Journalling Challenge
If you would like to spend a bit more time getting to know yourself and learning to ask yourself why in a positive way, I’ve got just the thing for you. On this 14 day challenge you will try out various formas of journalling, and if you enjoy it, you could create a regular journalling habit, which some people find life-changing.
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